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One interesting aspect of the T306 blocks is the use of the IALC in block 3 as a support for VSM and Viplan methodologies. I find this method useful and while it is deeply embedded in a radical constructivist view of the world, it is a great way to open up conversations and get them working on an open level suitable for the kind of engagement needed to support viable systems.
My only misgiving about the entire piece is the small bit about ways to reengage the cycle after it has broken down. I think the ideas are great, however, I do feel that sometimes it may be preferable to stay out of the cycle rather than to reenter it on a personal level. In other words, sometimes I think there is a point at which futher engagement may only deepen the existing conflict, and there may be a need for external facilitation if the damage is to be repaired.

I personally have found myself in situations with personal relationships where I see that there are no further benefits to me in continuing the relationship, or that communications are too far broken down in order to "fix" things. For example an ex of mine occasionally phones up when she has a need she would like me to fulfill, usualy some technical knowledge or general knowledge. I never get a call because she actually feels a need to talk to me on a personal level, lies about a number of things I have clear evidence about, and as such I feel deeply manipulated when she does call, which doesn't encourage me to try to use IALC methods, as I feel I'd just rather not hear from her. On the other hand, I would find it useful maybe if I did express this?
Now I have another situation where a realtionship I walked away from a couple of months ago by opting entirely out with a "this isn't working for me" statement, doesn't go away because every couple of weeks I get a message from the girl in question trying to reignite the friendship. Part of my problem is that the way in which she does it doesn't really invite me to have feelings and needs, and so I don't feel confident that if I did reply, I would get anywhere except back to the same position, which was a relationship that I felt drained by. IALC is hard to use in this situation where you just want out. Though, it could potentially be interesting.